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Post by SaRaHJaNe on Mar 9, 2009 4:54:34 GMT
His cell phone is always off. He might be spending time with someone he doesn't want you to know about...or he just doesn't want to make himself available.
He's reluctant to make plans. If he hems and haws about committing to anything — even if it's in the semi-near future — he's thinking about making a break for it.
He's meaner. The passive-aggressive breakup is a guy standby. Some men intentionally turn into a-holes to make sure you break up with them.
He's not into sex. He doesn't want to feel connected to you — or he's getting his needs filled somewhere else.
i hate to say this is true but sad to say it is i think...... any comments guys?
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Post by richard on Mar 9, 2009 22:17:06 GMT
I would say as a guy and having doing it already...........
He's Gone ................you lost him already .....not completly but for sure somethnig else is filling is mind ( hummmm not only hie mind .....lol)
i hate to say that but you are right ...........
-x-x-x-x-x-xx-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x-x
waaahhh... is this how men dumped us???
-sj
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Post by SaRaHJaNe on Mar 12, 2009 9:01:38 GMT
Its sad to say how mean it can be when a guy lost his interest with a certain girl... i never realize you do this too.. lol
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Post by richard on Mar 12, 2009 12:59:13 GMT
what abt a woman losing interrest for her guy ....does she not act the same  i had few example where it was the same scenario and same attitude biut the woman was acting women ...men ....we have somthing in common dont forget ...we are only human !!! |
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Post by SaRaHJaNe on Mar 21, 2009 0:45:56 GMT
yeah perhaps so... but not all do .. coz i never want to hurt anyone like that.. If i dont like a guy never show him any encouragement or else it will be unfair to the person...
Maybe...you should always try to put yourself in others' shoes.
If you feel that something could hurt you, it probably will hurt the other person, too.
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Post by richard on Mar 21, 2009 14:54:07 GMT
hummmmm u are right Sj ...we should always think abt the decisions we take and their consequences ..........
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Post by SaRaHJaNe on Mar 22, 2009 7:00:35 GMT
Actually it should be.. but u think men and women here online do the same too??? most people online im sure arent in for love.... i cant believe they decide to marry soon without falling inlove first in real... or get to know each other before deciding the real thing.. i must admit long distance online relationship is really complicated.
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Post by richard on Mar 22, 2009 8:10:29 GMT
oh oh oh ...Sj i am not wrong u tell us a bot the contrary before ......and yes i do agree to fall in love the real life is a must....................online "games" might be a trigger for a love story but i don't believe in an "Only" online love
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Post by SaRaHJaNe on Mar 24, 2009 22:58:04 GMT
what i mean is... instant meeting and instant plans to marry.. something like a marriage for convenience.
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Post by kenny220 on Apr 4, 2009 19:11:35 GMT
After I read this article, and as I was spell-checking it, a huge red
flag popped into my mind, so I have decided to give you 11 signs he
is about to break up with you. Before I do so, I want you to take a
few minutes after reading this article to think about what that one last
sign could be, then scroll down to the bottom of this article for the sign
and a short explanation. Here’s a little hint: It is right under your nose.
1. A noticeable change in his behavior towards you.
For the most part, guys are creatures of habit and only change their
patterns when they are up to something new. Does his attitude towards
you seem a tad distant? Does he not make direct eye contact when
talking to you anymore? When he comes over to your place, does he
walk up to you and give you a hug or does he flop his fat ass down
on the couch to watch some t.v.?
Guys, same thing: When she walks in your front door does she
smile and give you a great big hug or does she casually stroll on
in and immediately start talking about her day? (which leads us
to the second sign)
2. Me, Me, Me.
Whenever someone wants to cease interpersonal communication
with another person (aside from not talking to them), they generally
more and more start to focus conversations on themselves. This is
so that they don’t have to make a concerted effort to maintain that
interpersonal relationship with you. In other words, they are mentally
checked out. How to tell if someone is mentally checked out of a
relationship? There is no easy answer for this one. People are
different. Sometimes he will use the word “I” instead of “we” when
talking about the two of you. Over time this can be a big indicator
that he is no longer interested in you. Look for a pattern in his
behavior that might suggest something is amiss. I would advise you
to be careful on this one though…..Psychologists have told us that
when you like someone, you tend to sometimes subconsciously emulate
different things about them. So after a few weeks of noticing your
boyfriend only talking about himself, you will find yourself having to
consciously steer the conversation away from him and back towards
you. This in and of itself can cause an issue.
3. “I don’t like the way that dress looks on you”.
What guy in his right mind would tell a girl he just started to date
that she needed to lose a few pounds? None that I know of. When
you are out shopping with him….has he suggested out of the blue
that you buy or wear a dress or shirt that you normally wouldn’t wear?
Or, does he suddenly not show an interest in how you look? This can
be a huge sign that he is no longer interested in you.
4. Gotta go, gotta go !!
In this day and age, most people are busier than they were 10-20
years ago. Cell phones, email, internet etc have opened up a whole
new realm of communication and have in many ways made our lives
easier, but at the same time these innovations have allowed us to
sometimes take on more than we can handle. This is not an excuse
for him to break date plans with you because “he is too busy”.
Staying late after work? Suddenly he is hanging out with his friends
more than he did when you first started dating? That “thing” that he
had to do early Saturday morning that wound up taking him all day?
These all can be construed as ways for him to try to start separating
himself from the relationship. Again, just because he stayed out late
one night and forgot to call you doesn’t necessarily mean he wants
out of the relationship.
5. James Bond.
Do you ever wonder if your boyfriend works for the CIA? Phone calls
that he doesn’t answer while you are in the car together….immediately
hiding his emails or whatever he is doing on the computer when you
walk by…..acting “shy” around that perky 18 year old girl who works
at the Starbucks counter?
Hrmm….
6. Blitzkrieg !!
Fighting is sometimes an inevitable counterpart of a relationship.
But when you start to notice that the fights are getting more and
more frequent, or are about trivial matters, this might be a sign he
is on his way out. No one likes to fight, unless they want something
out of it.
7. He went from “thingy-strong, a-block-long” to a “2 minute man” overnight.
I don’t know about you guys….but when I first get into a serious
committed relationship, the sex is just fantastic. Over time, it does
get to be a routine thing and there are sometimes when either partner
is just not up to it. But when you start noticing him not doing the little
things in bed that he used to do when you first started dating, this might
be a good sign he is over it.
8. Silence is golden, let us be rich.
Has the conversation ceased to be meaningful and interesting?
Are you starting to notice him only talking when it is required by
conversation etiquette? Did he used to tell you funny anecdotes
and make witty comments, now only to throw out a half-assed
reply when it is dictated? You can test this theory by asking him
one or two questions that you know that would have made for a
great conversation early on in the relationship.
9. No future talk.
Is there any talk about your future together? Has he made any
plans for you to go out on a vacation or holiday somewhere lately?
Try making plans with him for a future event and watch closely his
reaction. Does he willingly agree to go with you, or do you get a
“We’ll….let’s play it by ear” type of response?
10. “I need some alone time”
This is so painfully obvious that I am really hesitant to list it here,
but I have noticed over the years that a few of my friends have
been so blinded by their love/infatuation with another person, that
they cannot get a hint even if he hired a Barbershop Quartet to
knock on your front door and sing in unison:
“It’s over, over, overrrr !!!”.
There you have it. 10 signs your boyfriend (or girlfriend) is about to QUIT
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Post by jade on Apr 8, 2009 0:35:36 GMT
hahaha thats a very detailed one..... thanks Kenny all you write here is true.......... It is only because some are so inlove with their mate that they cant see that they already wanted it overrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr...  |
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