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Post by jade on May 7, 2009 2:02:10 GMT
Are you in a relationship where your boyfriend tells you he loves you, seems to enjoy spending time with you, and everything is good EXCEPT that he's making no move to commit to you?
Does he withdraw or become distant whenever the issue of "taking the next step" comes up?
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Post by kenny220 on May 7, 2009 10:16:20 GMT
There are a few things that you could keep in the back of your mind when you are stuck with a no commitment guy
Remember that the majority of guys are sincere when it comes to women, and you'd have to be unlucky to run into a no show, but it can happen, to the best of you
There are good guys out there, who will treat you like gold and give you the respect that you deserve.. but you have to free yourself first from the no show, and find the happiness you deserve.
Listen to your friends when they tell you the truth, they are tyring to help, because they love you and worry about you.
Don't be afraid to break-up with him, he is wasting your time, and your precious life. Precious time that you can't get back.
Know you are worth every effort that a man puts into a woman, when he's in love, and you deserve no less than that. remember that introducing you to his friends is something a guy does to show you off.. and has nothing to do with commitment.
When you start to think something is wrong with you, that he is ashamed of you, and start to feel bad about yourself because he won't commit hiself to you , Think again, you are suffering in silence and now it's affecting your entire outlook on life, and yourself, and you really need to get away from the situation.
Even if you believe him that he is afraid of commitment, and the relationship you are in is making you feel sad, edgy and unsettled, and it's not giving you all that you need and want, it's ok to say that you deserve better. And remember, no one will give you better, you have to go out and get it for yourself.
If he is a no commitment cheating sly dog, you will probably be the last to know, if you ever learn the whole truth. If he fits into the signs above, he could be using you as the other woman.
Knowing or not, what it all really boils down to is, does he make you happy? Is the relationship giving you what you want and deserve?. It's up to you, you know your situation better than anyone. Take care with all your choices, and good luck.
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Post by SaRaHJaNe on May 7, 2009 23:05:08 GMT
When the guy avoids talking about commitments, he surely dont have any intentions to get into serious matters and commitment is not his stuff. So better move on and stop wasting time with the guy.
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Post by richard on May 9, 2009 16:01:29 GMT
if you look at commitments only then yes Sj ......is rite ......fly away from him
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Post by jade on May 10, 2009 10:42:14 GMT
The signs is as bright as the sun when he avoid talking about commitment......... but there are lots of guys and gals who want only a no commitment relationship so try check what is it really you like.
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Post by belledonne1160 on May 10, 2009 20:29:08 GMT
commitment as in commit into marriage? yeah everybody is scared of that ......... its a serious stuff but thank heavens there is this thing called divorce. wink wink to dok k ;D
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Post by kenny220 on May 11, 2009 10:35:00 GMT
Why am i getting winked at Belledonne ,  ?? |
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Post by belledonne1160 on May 11, 2009 22:40:39 GMT
haha Dok K it was i saw the wink wink in some of your post, i copied it..............
Relax dok K nothing to worry about lol
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Post by richard on May 21, 2009 13:24:48 GMT
the way i understood the basic question was:
Can we be friends AND only friends and have intimate relation with the other
My answer : is YES .....................Experimented
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Post by jade on May 21, 2009 21:23:29 GMT
Very Well Richard, being friends as well as lovers........surely this kind of relationship had been experimented thru and thru with people who want only fun and no commitment involve. People who want this kind of relationship are those who are committed to others or just wanna have fun and free lifestyle.
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Post by richard on May 21, 2009 22:45:29 GMT
Jade ...not exactly. I am not referring to fun here or free lifestyle where you are involved in a relation just not to say "having sex" with somebody else just for a short relation based only on the pleasure. i was saying that it is possible that 2 friends . true friends might at one point of time decide to have intimate relation without being really in love each other..... this is not fun but a step further between friendship and love but are we not loving our friends finally i do believe we do or so they are not real friends |
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Post by jade on May 27, 2009 0:45:53 GMT
You kinda puzzled me..... for me, friends are friends. You see, there is always distinction with friends, and lovers.
When i do business, i dont mix it up with monkey business.. as it spoils the transaction. Likewise in friendship, when you step out of the friendship stage and venture into a more intimate relationship it spoils the thing that is called friendship... as you are in the stage where intimate relationship is involved.
You cant be friends and be lovers... but you can be lovers and be friends.
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Post by kenny220 on May 27, 2009 12:55:54 GMT
I had a sexual relationship with a friend that went on for years. In the beginning, we dated briefly, but soon realized we were not meant to be boyfriend/girlfriend. Yet we continued to sleep together, on and off, while we both dated other people. We were friends, and although we had a romantic connection, we were not quite lovers. We didn’t see each other as frequently as lovers do; when we did see each other, there was no expectation that we would have sex. it just happened most times we both just needed a good f**k,
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