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Post by liebling0603 on May 12, 2009 12:35:49 GMT
They say being heartbroken is the painful thing we could imagine.. but we can always be positive bout certain things that we cant overcome.. 1. LOST OF WEIGHT you cant eat and u cant sleep you lost your appetite even to your favorite food .. cheer up! its a good thing! when u look at yourself in the mirror you would see how good and sexy you are!  2. LONELINESS when you feel lonely specially when u miss that person badly always think your family and friends who knows you more , and im sure they would always give thier unconditional love, comfort and support for you . 3. SCARED TO BE ALONE... Dont be! always think that there would always be the right person for you.. have faith and always keep your head up high!  4. DISTRACTED its very normal to get distracted .. we tend to just keep thinking of that person .. which is not really helping you... try to keep yourself as normal as before do other things that u havent done yet. keep yourself busy .. meet friends and family or go out enjoy life ..now your single enjoy it ... who knows.. on the way you might meet the perfect match for you and lastly ... Always think positive ! Dont ever give the negativeness a chance to affect your life..  if anyone who can add more on the effects after breakup please do write bout it and if anyone who are against on this subject i am more willing to accept criticisms lol peace ;D Note: this subject is based on my own experience!! |
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Post by sexbomb123 on May 12, 2009 15:34:05 GMT
awww youre heartbroken liebling...... poor girl!!! Believe me, being heartbroken is good for your health!!! You are so cool about it. Keep it up........... and one more advice, dont look back, keep going, move on and collect more hahaha....................... if you lose one you still have 2. KEEP COOL, atta girl. ;D ;D ;D
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Post by liebling0603 on May 12, 2009 15:54:57 GMT
hey sexbomb123 thanks ! yeah need to move on im taking it one step at a time.. ill get there eventually lol :-)
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Post by river on May 12, 2009 22:27:38 GMT
You a very sweet girl.................................. good luck.
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Post by addictive on May 13, 2009 2:19:38 GMT
They say being heartbroken is the painful thing we could imagine.. but we can always be positive bout certain things that we cant overcome.. It's really good that liebling has turned the corner to start looking to a more positive future and moving on... But it so much easier for a woman to move on, especially if they are beautiful and sweet like I imagine liebling is ;D This is the effect on a guy after a devastating and unexpected break up.... That's lucky for a girl, but for a guy it can be the opposite, he can gain a lot of weight as now he can't be bothered to make decent dinners and just eats a lot of very fattening junk food, plus as he does not have a reason to not drink, less responsibilities etc. he may greatly increase his alcoholic drinking, combined with his very poor diet, he may really balloon out. Which then adds or quantifies his overall depression, because now he feels much more unattractive, especially as he's wasted his most handsome years with someone who ended up being the totally wrong girl to be his soul mate. Now he has to enter the singles market against much younger stronger and more virile ( he imagines) men than his now older less attractive and overweight self  Now that his best years are behind him, and he's far less competitive against his fellow man, he starts to feel really unloved and loses hope of finding a special girl that he finds so sweet and attractive, because he feels why would she go for him when there are so many other more handsome and sexy guys out there. So he seeks comfort in the alcoholic beverage before him, at least his beer will never hurt him... Another opposite between a man and woman, a woman is always comforted and supported, but most importantly understood by her friends of the turmoil she is going through. A guy cannot confide in his friends, for men find it so hard to show emotion with another man or have deep compassion of another mans feeling's. A male friend will often just avoid you when you're down, and/or their partners will keep them away from the single guy as they don't want there husband or partner to be tempted by the single life, or you don't meet the social set anymore. Or simply you lose friends because their wives or girlfriends were friends with your ex, and your male friends must support their partner and take your ex's side! Very true, you keep going over your deep emotional issue's with that person, through the anger, hurt, betrayal and the loss of the girl that he finally gave his soul to. He becomes so distracted in everyday, his work suffers, he avoids his friends, compounding all his problems. Soooooo.....much harder for guy when he is truly devastated and basically loses everything he has worked all his life for: His family, his home, his kids and his self esteem... So understand some men when they experience such pain, that they seem insecure within themselves, sometimes it only means they once loved, and are very capable of loving so deeply to a woman. Some men take a long time to recover, sadly some don't... Do I need to say....? I'm glad i'm anonymous here  |
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Post by SaRaHJaNe on May 13, 2009 10:00:30 GMT
Nicely enumerated addictive. Men suffers much too but being a man, its hard for you guys to show your true feelings. What you had enumerated are true and thank you for that. Sometimes, when breaking up happens, we think its always the girls who suffers and you guys are enjoying the new single status.
This is a very good topic, thanks for opening up liebling0603, i hope we members of this forum can help a bit in your desire to overcome and move on after such a bad and painful break up you had.
Good luck and keep up the good work!
cheers,
SJ
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Post by liebling0603 on May 13, 2009 18:20:58 GMT
To River Thanks so much for the encouragement! :-) To Addictive i never thought that men suffer after break up until now... i thought men can easilly forget and move on... we women maybe strong in our words and decisions but some women have difficulty of moving on aswell.. some try to engage to another ralationship just to escape of what they really feel... some they try to isolate themselves.. and then some try to pretend that they are okay just to show other people and especially with thier ex`es... which is not really helping... i think women who pretends are more fragile than women who admits that they need help and encouragement... i maybe a positive person ... but i struggle too....(most of the times)  .. and my emotions is killing me aswell..  but i have to be strong... not for anyone... but for myself alone... Thank you addictive for a wonderful post you have written.. my heart goes to all those people who suffers after break up...God speed :-) To SJ they say opening up is a Therapy... i need Therapy! I havent done anything like this.. especially opening up to people who i dont know ... honestly its does really help .. |
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Post by merlz on May 15, 2009 9:04:28 GMT
The best advice for anyone whose partner has left them is to accept what has happened, move on with your life, get strong and you will become attractive not only to your ex but to a whole host of other potential partners. In fact, once you find your strength I guarantee you will not be interested in your ex. Look for the seed of opportunity in every adversity.
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Post by richard on May 17, 2009 7:49:34 GMT
Yes open yourself to others after being dedicated to one its not that easy but its the only way to move on and to re-discover who u are and how lovely others can find you
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Post by liebling0603 on May 17, 2009 10:09:22 GMT
To Merlz Thanks merlz! yeah you are right acceptance is the key in every break up .. even tho sumtime im sooooooo stuborn hehehe :-) its like after the break up my life has just been broken ... my family and friends who are always there to help and comfort me gives me the strength to start picking up all the pieces and im sure one day id be one new Liebling0603! :-) To Richard yes richard opening up really helped ...i met some new friends on here and its still counting lol and yes you are right regarding rediscovering myself.. all the years i dedicated my love and trust i almost forgot myself ... but now i really appreciate how people see me as a person ... thanks richard! |
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Post by belledonne1160 on May 17, 2009 22:25:10 GMT
Liebling, you been doing fine. Brokenhearted are just a state of the mind and shouldnt be taken seriously it makes your system suffer and therefore will make you estranged to good things that happens everyday. Keep it up and dont waste a single day crying over some guy who doesnt derserve you. Move on and be accounted...... PEACE!!!
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Post by liebling0603 on May 18, 2009 11:15:12 GMT
hey belledone thanks! :-) im over on crying... i think i dont have more tears left... and your right i dont deserve SOME guy who had just given me so much pain and betrayal...A GUY who just think of himself....A GUY who lied of everything... A Guy who just runs away when he sees problems instead of facing it... A Guy who let me down (alot of times)... A Guy who promises but never fulfills...A Guy who used me for His pleasure....and this Guy who i truly loved , trusted, understood, accepted , cared, made me realized that i deserve more. :-) ...peace |
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Post by belledonne1160 on May 19, 2009 4:15:55 GMT
oh holy molly, what takes you too long you get stuck in there....
Honestly, once i was a fool ... not that i say you are a fool liebling.......... nope. I once fell inlove with a guy who had been pulling my leg and robbing me of my money. I never realized that until one day i woke up and found out i was wasting my time for him after he was long gone and after he had robbed me.
The effects of a break up is like a blow to the head. You never realized it until you get beaten up or get smashed to the wall... mind you, its good for you..... hehehe.
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Post by liebling0603 on May 19, 2009 17:53:05 GMT
yeah Belledone holly molly lol i guess its painful for you aswell... left you not just with a broken heart but a broken account aswell!  lol think im still lucky coz my ex cant rob my account coz i dont have any hehehe... ;D :-) and you are very right alot of women wont notice that they are being used.... until they got beaten up... :-) peace |
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Post by richard on May 21, 2009 13:12:51 GMT
our life is done of success and failures ...a break up is a failure in our life but so instructive also for the next steps we are going to have ....
turn it on the positive way and learn about it its how we growth, its how we get wider and wider.......to be one day at our best
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.. and my emotions is killing me aswell.. 
but i have to be strong... not for anyone... but for myself alone... Thank you addictive for a wonderful post you have written.. my heart goes to all those people who suffers after break up...God speed :-)
lol think im still lucky coz my ex cant rob my account coz i dont have any hehehe... ;D :-) and you are very right alot of women wont notice that they are being used.... until they got beaten up... :-) peace