Post by kenny220 on May 12, 2009 18:19:50 GMT
How do you tell the differance 
Some say there's love at first sight, others say that love slowly grows over time. Feelings of lust may be a little more clear, but is it more than just physical attraction that brings you together?
Those magnetised, all encompassing feelings could lead to something that you'll want for life, or maybe something that will fade as you get to know each other better. But as you count down the days, hours and minutes until you next see each other, are you left wondering, is it love or lust? There's a sliding scale, and lust sits at one end, and love at the other...
1. There's a powerful and irresistible attraction or chemistry
2. Daydreaming or fantasising about him/her is a common occurrence
3. You are immediately hit with intense desire as soon as you set eyes on him/her
4. In fact, you can't keep your eyes or hands off each other!
5. Everything is enjoyable in the moment, with a strong sense of excitement
6. In his/her company you can feel giddy, passionate, or unable to think clearly
7. You might not be able to explain quite what it is about him/her that you are so attracted to, but you know it's more than just the physical.
8. You almost always feel good in his/her company
9. You are friends as well as lovers
10. He/She can quite easily consume almost all of your thoughts
11. You can't imagine being with anyone else
12. You're at your happiest when you are together
13. Truly being yourself is easy around him/her
14. All of the time you spend together is enjoyable, from the mundane tasks to the heightened pleasures
15. These feelings are, as far as you can tell, reciprocated
16. You could quite happily list all of his/her qualities that you find so appealing
17. There's a kind of connection when you are together
18. You really care about him/her, and can't imagine life without him/her
19. You trust each other, and know that you'd always be there for each other
20. There's a future in this as you'd give yourself entirely
Lust- If you're sitting in stages 1 - 10 then it sounds like you're in lust, although this could change and develop along with the relationship. If your object of affection is easy to frequently fantasise about, him/her then it's a sign you're at the early stages and don't yet know each other that well.
But if you find yourself thinking about him/her in your every waking moment, consider whether these thoughts are based more on fantasy or reality. Either way, make the most of the intense attraction.
Love - Beyond stage 10, you are passed the purely physical level, and are leaning more and more in the direction of falling or being in love. Love involves knowing and loving someone in their entirety, and seeing someone for who they are, rather than who you want them to be. Differing feelings can be confused because what starts as a lustful liaison can potentially turn into something far more caring, affectionate and long-term.
A strong attraction is likely to be just one of the many aspects of your relationship, along with friendship, commitment and trust. With all these elements together, you are set for a truly loving relationship.
Good Luck
Some say there's love at first sight, others say that love slowly grows over time. Feelings of lust may be a little more clear, but is it more than just physical attraction that brings you together?
Those magnetised, all encompassing feelings could lead to something that you'll want for life, or maybe something that will fade as you get to know each other better. But as you count down the days, hours and minutes until you next see each other, are you left wondering, is it love or lust? There's a sliding scale, and lust sits at one end, and love at the other...
1. There's a powerful and irresistible attraction or chemistry
2. Daydreaming or fantasising about him/her is a common occurrence
3. You are immediately hit with intense desire as soon as you set eyes on him/her
4. In fact, you can't keep your eyes or hands off each other!
5. Everything is enjoyable in the moment, with a strong sense of excitement
6. In his/her company you can feel giddy, passionate, or unable to think clearly
7. You might not be able to explain quite what it is about him/her that you are so attracted to, but you know it's more than just the physical.
8. You almost always feel good in his/her company
9. You are friends as well as lovers
10. He/She can quite easily consume almost all of your thoughts
11. You can't imagine being with anyone else
12. You're at your happiest when you are together
13. Truly being yourself is easy around him/her
14. All of the time you spend together is enjoyable, from the mundane tasks to the heightened pleasures
15. These feelings are, as far as you can tell, reciprocated
16. You could quite happily list all of his/her qualities that you find so appealing
17. There's a kind of connection when you are together
18. You really care about him/her, and can't imagine life without him/her
19. You trust each other, and know that you'd always be there for each other
20. There's a future in this as you'd give yourself entirely
Lust- If you're sitting in stages 1 - 10 then it sounds like you're in lust, although this could change and develop along with the relationship. If your object of affection is easy to frequently fantasise about, him/her then it's a sign you're at the early stages and don't yet know each other that well.
But if you find yourself thinking about him/her in your every waking moment, consider whether these thoughts are based more on fantasy or reality. Either way, make the most of the intense attraction.
Love - Beyond stage 10, you are passed the purely physical level, and are leaning more and more in the direction of falling or being in love. Love involves knowing and loving someone in their entirety, and seeing someone for who they are, rather than who you want them to be. Differing feelings can be confused because what starts as a lustful liaison can potentially turn into something far more caring, affectionate and long-term.
A strong attraction is likely to be just one of the many aspects of your relationship, along with friendship, commitment and trust. With all these elements together, you are set for a truly loving relationship.
Good Luck
