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Post by liebling0603 on May 18, 2009 13:12:12 GMT
Alot of people say it doesnt ....but alot of people say it does...women who are engage with younger men gets more criticisms than men... does age really matters when 2 people are inlove even the age gap?
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Post by SaRaHJaNe on May 18, 2009 16:06:25 GMT
Some people say age doesnt matter, but for me i think it really does matter. The relationship adjustment could be hard when both have different likes and dislikes.
This kind of relationship is shun by most people in our country.... when the woman is much older than the man. This is perhaps coz the man should be the one who should handle the affairs of the family or in a relationship, so it doesnt matter when its the man who is older than the woman.
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Post by kenny220 on May 18, 2009 16:37:13 GMT
I don't believe for a minute that younger girls or boys with older people can't have exciting and full sex lives, ,but will it still be ok say 20 years time when he or she still in there sexual prime, will the older partner be still going strong in most cases the answer would be NO, Or might you be jealous of your attractive, still-young, partner?
Then there are the issues of values and life experience. What may be important to he/she at 25 or 30 may not be to you. Will it be difficult for you to relate to someone who views Vietnam, the Kennedy assassination and Watergate as things that he/she read about in a history book? Could you both be at ease in each other's social circles? i have dated a woman young enough to be my daughter; indeed, she was younger than my daughter. We threw a party, they came, and she was, understandably, uncomfortable trying to be a part of what could only seem to her like a party at her parent's house. Eventually, we broke up, and she was badly hurt. But i got over it, The thing is, both of us were good smart people loved the sexual side of the relationship, but were just at different points in our lives, and we realized that a permanent relationship was out of the question. on saying that it was a good 2/3 years in my life i cant and dont want to forget , and im sure she reaps the benefits of being with an older man for the experience and will do all her life,
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Post by richard on May 21, 2009 13:18:09 GMT
yeahhh i fully agree with what Doc is saying......i had the same experience with a young woman .........at first it was good because maybe of the physical attraction and desire to get into a sex relationship.
but the time shows that we are not belonging to the same world at all....her expectations and mine were so different that it as impossible to think about a serious and long relationship..
we realize that both of us so it was easy to separate our roads .........she found her anyway now ....i have mine ...........in the same world
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Post by SaRaHJaNe on May 22, 2009 0:24:21 GMT
Experience is a good teacher... been into that same experience too. My ex was 10 years younger than me so i say that to me age really does matter. The adjustment period is the most critical part of the relationship. When age gap is too far from the other mate, your expectations are somewhat different and its very hard to live in both world.
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Post by merlz on May 25, 2009 6:46:17 GMT
Love has to do with one's heart NOT age. Love is unconditionally. It's the fireworks you see and the butterfly you feel when the person you love is beside you. It's the heat you feel. It's the willing to love you no matter your look. For age face doesn't matter. Because even if you disagree with me if one day your love gets in a car accident and the pretty person you love is now ugly you will still love them. Love is unconditional. It's based on one's heart instead on ones appearance. For if you think age matters there is a 50 percent chance you may not get married because that person is old but you don't know God made that person for you and she has your heart.
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Post by jade on May 26, 2009 22:59:25 GMT
Very nicely phrased Merlz,
For you who have not experienced the pain of being put in a wrong situation for marrying a guy/gal much too young or old for you, im sure you think its love that only matters in a relationship. But let's be honest guys, for those who had experienced being with a mate who is not your age, would you still think that love is all that matters to you and age is not ?
Cmon guys whats your say about this?
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Post by richard on May 26, 2009 23:08:48 GMT
Age does not matter fundamentally speaking .....but its an handicap for a long term relationship yes
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Post by SaRaHJaNe on May 27, 2009 13:45:10 GMT
Age does not matter fundamentally speaking .....but its an handicap for a long term relationship yes I agree with you Richard, been into this kind of relationship and i agree that its like a hindrance to a successful marriage... If you dont have any intention of making it to 'til death do us part' vow, then age doesnt matter im sure... it could be more fun i think. |
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Post by merlz on May 28, 2009 1:34:08 GMT
The way I see it…they both adults free to choose whomever they desire. As long as they’re happy, then its their business and no one elses.
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Post by merlz on May 29, 2009 0:51:10 GMT
"Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you dont mind, it doesn't matter."
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Post by jade on May 30, 2009 21:26:20 GMT
Hey Merlz, we are in a forum discussions and the purpose here is to give opinions and ideas not get into other's people life. If we think we are getting into other's people lives, then this forum hasnt serve its purpose. Our aim here is to open up what is in our mind and share it to other's freely and let it be discussed candidly.
Thanks for your coments.
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Post by liebling0603 on May 31, 2009 9:42:06 GMT
What merlz said age wont matter if both couple have an understanding , love and acceptance bout thier age gap but in many ways it does really matters .. especially if the guy is alot younger than the woman there are some situations that both couple wont agree and in some cases the woman handles the relationship.. and because the woman is alot older the guy is left behind wich makes the guy feel insecure and he tends to find some people could really relate to thier age.... younger men can easilly change thier ways and thinking because they arent mature enough to face problems, difficulty or trials ... unlike older women who has more experience on handling relationship... im not saying all younger men are immature ...they are just young enough to be in the situation especially when problems comes.. people gets mature not because of the age its because of the experiences in our life ...
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Post by jade on Jun 1, 2009 1:45:34 GMT
Age gap relationships can and do work. The issue is not necessarily the ages of the couple, but how they are willing to deal with important issues such as their motives for being together, their goals in life and how they feel about having or not having children. As long as their relationship is based on a solid foundation, rather than a fleeting fancy, they will be successful in their marriage.
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Post by merlz on Jun 1, 2009 2:33:10 GMT
 All is fair in love. Age doesn't really matter if you fell in love. Old and young alike are no difference when it comes to the affairs of the heart. |
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