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Post by SaRaHJaNe on Feb 7, 2015 9:03:38 GMT
 Do you believe that lying is good to avoid arguments and fights in a relationship and cheating to make marriage last? comments please! |
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Post by pyth0n on Feb 7, 2015 10:35:46 GMT
In most ways I am honest to my wife, telling her many things other men would not - like the time I accidentally ended up in a brothel in Belgium. Having said that I am not completely honest with her. Whilst a love her, for a variety of reasons our love life stinks.
As a result I have cheated on her occasionally, always with extreme care. Should I really do this? Probably not. if I got careless it would be the end of over 30 years of marriage.
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Post by SaRaHJaNe on Feb 7, 2015 10:44:32 GMT
In most ways I am honest to my wife, telling her many things other men would not - like the time I accidentally ended up in a brothel in Belgium. Having said that I am not completely honest with her. Whilst a love her, for a variety of reasons our love life stinks. As a result I have cheated on her occasionally, always with extreme care. Should I really do this? Probably not. if I got careless it would be the end of over 30 years of marriage. hahaha well i am not asking u to relate your story just your opinion and some truth about how your marriage survive for 30 years... do you really have to lie??? Is it really true that lying is part of the survival?? mmmm lol |
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Post by stevenr1953 on Feb 7, 2015 16:44:56 GMT
Lying
In general you should be open and honest with your partner. Always remember "if you never lie you never have to remember what you said before".
Is it necessary or desireable to lie sometimes yes it is.
a lie to hide something you are arranging in secret is fine - example my ex-wife had always wanted to visit Iceland for a vacation. For a wedding anniversary I secretly arranged a vacation there but told her we were going somewhere in England. It wasn't until I started driving into the airport instead of down the motorway that she realised I had been lying to her but when she found out where she was going she didn't care.
a lie to avoid an argument - you are out shopping with your partner and she sees an item of clothing and quite clearly falls in love with it. You think it looks dreadful and does not suit her at all. You would lie and say it looks OK rather than argue about it.
I'm sure others can think of good reasons to lie but the lie should never be such that if the partner found out about it they would be really hurt.
Cheating
my personal view is that relationships should be 1 man to 1 woman no cheating and that is something I have always stuck to. If you like/want someone else finish 1 relationship before starting another.
However I can understand that there may be reasons why your partner can't provide what you need. In those circumstances you make a choice based on your own personal standards and morality.
Promises
I never make a promise unless I fully intend to keep it.
If I do not keep a promise I have made the cause will be something outside my control that has prevented me from doing so,
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Post by SaRaHJaNe on Feb 8, 2015 7:30:19 GMT
I have read all your post here and i find that you are a good man and i can say that your woman will be so lucky to have you. You are the boyfriend that many girls dream for... and here you are!!! You are a rare breed,, and a husband material.hehe.. Hope you find her soon.
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Post by stevenr1953 on Feb 8, 2015 21:45:39 GMT
Thank you for your kind words Sarah.
I have become fairly disillusioned with the search for a partner for life and, at least for the time being, I am not looking very hard to find her. I just get on with my life and if I meet someone it will be good.
I can't really complain about my life - I earn enough to live comfortably but with not a lot to spare. I have close family (including my 4 month old grandson) and good friends. My sister staying here with me for a few months makes it less lonely but it is not the same as having a special someone of my own for companionship and of course a love life!
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Post by canadianboy on Feb 8, 2015 21:56:26 GMT
once you lie you tend to keep on lying and it doesn't stop one lie on the next until usually you get caught, heheh so don't start the lie, if you screw up as everyone does, tell the truth and move on ask for forgivness
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Post by SaRaHJaNe on Feb 9, 2015 6:46:49 GMT
once you lie you tend to keep on lying and it doesn't stop one lie on the next until usually you get caught, heheh so don't start the lie, if you screw up as everyone does, tell the truth and move on ask for forgivness lol does it mean u lie and lie til caught and just tell the truth when caught and move on and just ask for forgiveness? hahah the fish is caught in his own mouth.... funny canadianguy... lol |
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