Post by SaRaHJaNe on Apr 18, 2009 21:30:43 GMT
By: Christian Carter
Is the man you love "unavailable"
for anything lasting or committed with you?
Are you tired of all the guessing and
UNCERTAINTY that comes along with not knowing
how your man feels, and what he'll want or not
want next?
Is it making you frustrated wondering if you'll
EVER find and enjoy the kind of love and
relationship that's truly lasting and secure?
If so, there are some important things you
should know about a man's "commitment tempo"
and the REAL reasons he will decide-for himself-
that he wants "forever" with you. Read about
this right here:
www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/FCTC
Here's the strangest thing about men...
Just because you've been happily dating a man
for several weeks, months or even years... it
doesn't automatically mean he's thinking or
feeling "commitment", or seeking a deeper lasting
expression of his LOVE with you.
That's right.
And if you're like most women, then by
experience you already know this to be true. And
it scares you.
You can spend time with a man, get close,
become intimate and bond... and he can still NOT
WANT to create or nurture a relationship with you.
Even if your relationship is one that makes
you both happy when you're together.
What's up with that?
So why are so many men "unavailable"?
I'll give you the short answer here...
It's because men have a different RELATIONSHIP
TIMELINE for wanting to get "serious" with a
woman... and a different REASONS for making the
shift to where love and an exclusive committed
relationship is the thing they really want.
That might sound "selfish" and like a man
needs to get over his "issues"...but it's also
just how men are when it comes to real lasting
relationships.
Does that mean that it's "all about him" and
that if you want to share a real relationship,
you have to put aside what you want... or else
wait for him to get his act together?
Absolutely not.
The first thing you should know is... a man's
"Commitment Tempo" (when he'll want to take
things to the next level with you) has NOTHING
to do with how long you've been together.
The amount of TIME you've been together is
irrelevant to a man's feelings...and whether or
not he feels "ready" to commit.
Unfortunately most women don't know this, and
instead they try to convince or reason with a
man that it's THE RIGHT TIME to take the next step
and grow the relationship.
By doing this, they accidentally create MORE
RESISTANCE inside the man... which can end up in
disagreements, power struggles, and lots of bad
"drama."
All of which ends the same way - the man
WITHDRAWING even further, if not leaving
altogether.
Don't shoot yourself in the foot this way.
The end result of all that drama is that the
man starts feeling that the relationship is more
of an unnecessary "hardship" than an OPPORTUNITY
for more love and happiness.
You don't want that.
If you've ever been with a man and shared
something amazing for several months and grown
closer and closer, but then he RESISTED and
WITHDREW once you actually talked about how things
were moving forward between you... then you know
exactly what I'm talking about.
Here's a secret when it comes to "unavailable"
men and moving your relationship forward in a way
that will INSPIRE the man you're with to be a
better partner and lover-
Don't try and TALK your way into a better
relationship with him.
A man doesn't commit to a woman in a
conversation, or even with his words.
It's something he just FEELS inside and wants
for himself.
Do you know what it is that really and truly
creates this DESIRE and FEELING inside a man?
Before you waste any more of your time waiting
for a man to "get his act together", or trying
the hopeless approach of working to "convince" a
man that your relationship is special and worth
taking to the NEXT LEVEL... read this special
letter I put together about the reasons WHY a man
will WANT AND CHOOSE to be with you, and only you:
www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/FCTC
Is the man you love "unavailable"
for anything lasting or committed with you?
Are you tired of all the guessing and
UNCERTAINTY that comes along with not knowing
how your man feels, and what he'll want or not
want next?
Is it making you frustrated wondering if you'll
EVER find and enjoy the kind of love and
relationship that's truly lasting and secure?
If so, there are some important things you
should know about a man's "commitment tempo"
and the REAL reasons he will decide-for himself-
that he wants "forever" with you. Read about
this right here:
www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/FCTC
Here's the strangest thing about men...
Just because you've been happily dating a man
for several weeks, months or even years... it
doesn't automatically mean he's thinking or
feeling "commitment", or seeking a deeper lasting
expression of his LOVE with you.
That's right.
And if you're like most women, then by
experience you already know this to be true. And
it scares you.
You can spend time with a man, get close,
become intimate and bond... and he can still NOT
WANT to create or nurture a relationship with you.
Even if your relationship is one that makes
you both happy when you're together.
What's up with that?
So why are so many men "unavailable"?
I'll give you the short answer here...
It's because men have a different RELATIONSHIP
TIMELINE for wanting to get "serious" with a
woman... and a different REASONS for making the
shift to where love and an exclusive committed
relationship is the thing they really want.
That might sound "selfish" and like a man
needs to get over his "issues"...but it's also
just how men are when it comes to real lasting
relationships.
Does that mean that it's "all about him" and
that if you want to share a real relationship,
you have to put aside what you want... or else
wait for him to get his act together?
Absolutely not.
The first thing you should know is... a man's
"Commitment Tempo" (when he'll want to take
things to the next level with you) has NOTHING
to do with how long you've been together.
The amount of TIME you've been together is
irrelevant to a man's feelings...and whether or
not he feels "ready" to commit.
Unfortunately most women don't know this, and
instead they try to convince or reason with a
man that it's THE RIGHT TIME to take the next step
and grow the relationship.
By doing this, they accidentally create MORE
RESISTANCE inside the man... which can end up in
disagreements, power struggles, and lots of bad
"drama."
All of which ends the same way - the man
WITHDRAWING even further, if not leaving
altogether.
Don't shoot yourself in the foot this way.
The end result of all that drama is that the
man starts feeling that the relationship is more
of an unnecessary "hardship" than an OPPORTUNITY
for more love and happiness.
You don't want that.
If you've ever been with a man and shared
something amazing for several months and grown
closer and closer, but then he RESISTED and
WITHDREW once you actually talked about how things
were moving forward between you... then you know
exactly what I'm talking about.
Here's a secret when it comes to "unavailable"
men and moving your relationship forward in a way
that will INSPIRE the man you're with to be a
better partner and lover-
Don't try and TALK your way into a better
relationship with him.
A man doesn't commit to a woman in a
conversation, or even with his words.
It's something he just FEELS inside and wants
for himself.
Do you know what it is that really and truly
creates this DESIRE and FEELING inside a man?
Before you waste any more of your time waiting
for a man to "get his act together", or trying
the hopeless approach of working to "convince" a
man that your relationship is special and worth
taking to the NEXT LEVEL... read this special
letter I put together about the reasons WHY a man
will WANT AND CHOOSE to be with you, and only you:
www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/FCTC